While the notion of marriage may be steeped in tradition, many couples like to add a modern twist to etiquette and their own stamp on “the rules”.
In fact, in 2024, established norms at wedding ceremonies are relatively loose. For example, it’s fine for a bridesmaid not go to the bachelorette party if she can’t afford it.
Some couples might want to enjoy their special day without kids running around screaming. Is it OK to implement a no-children rule for your big day?
We want to hear your suggestions for “modern wedding etiquette”. What do you think about asking for cash gifts from your guests, rather than a stainless steel dining set? Or forgoing favors for your guests – which more often than not, end up thrown in the trash or forgotten in a drawer?
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